Many men or women have no where to start when it comes to asking there significant other the important question, “Will you marry me?” It’s one of those questions that can be very nerve wracking. You want to ensure you plan it strategically, so your significant other has no idea what’s going on. These days, there are professionals that actually plan and execute these types of events.
- Make sure both of you are on the same page. Without asking her/him indirectly if she or he is ready for marriage prior to buying the ring. Do you need to speak with their parents prior to asking? It’s always great to be respectful when it comes to something this grand in someone’s life.
- Brainstorming where you would like this hosted. It’s important to think about what your significant other enjoys. Maybe it’s a place where you both met, or maybe it’s a destination or place they always dreamed of going. Nonetheless, it has to be special.
- Determine if you would like the two of you or if you would like friends and family involved.
- When determining the place you want to ask, it’s important that you consider all of the execution. Are you ok with people being around? Do you want this proposal intimate and just the two of you? These are things to consider when planning this special moment.
- Let’s give you an example. Let’s say you wanted to host this marriage proposal at a winery. Just like one of my couples Victoria and Louie. Louie had no idea the logistics and the execution of the marriage proposal. He had no idea where to begin. The location was the easiest part to plan, but he had no idea of the esthetics. I suggested some flowers, rose pedals, a “will you marry me,” sign, and a few other things to make this area special. There were a lot of components into the planning that you had to consider, especially since it was open to the public. As a planner, my team ensured no one came to that designated area and providing signs that said, “Private Event Only.”
- To plan something like this strategically, it’s important to put together an itinerary and agenda. Putting all the designated contact numbers of the venue manager, on-site contact person to ensure if anything happened, we would have contact right away. There was a time frame that Victoria and Louie went to the restaurant, and they enjoyed a glass of wine together prior to the proposal. It’s important to remain calm and collected, that way she didn’t suspect anything. I hear it all the time when the individual proposing didn’t hire a professional and the significant other knew something was “fishy” going on! That’s why hiring a planner and coordinator for the day is important. All you have to do is ask the questions and everything else is taken care of. One of the things that the person proposing doesn’t think of is the aftermath of the question being asked and the teardown. Is there décor at the place? Who will be taking the décor down? A planner would have all that taken care of, so you can actually enjoy the proposal.
- Hire a photographer! This is an aspect you want to take care of for your special day. You want this documented. She/He will want to see this in the aftermath.
- Hire a florist or decorator. The important thing is you asking the question. You shouldn’t be having to run around the day of for the esthetics of the space. After all, it’s your marriage proposal too and you shouldn’t be dealing with the stress of the execution. Enjoy the moment.
- Where do you put the ring box? If your partner notices things easily, this can give the entire proposal away. Make sure the ring is completely secure. If you don’t want the ring box in your pocket, ensure that the ring is tied to something so you don’t lose it, or clipped onto something that you can take it out easily without hesitation.
- The day comes, enjoy the moment.
For any other advice and expertise, contact Amanda from C’est Beau Luxury Events & Design for any virtual or in-person assistance.